Reflecting on Christmas Presents

The page turns to a new year of parenting ourselves, our children and our grandchildren.  In my free book, I state that there are five principles of parenting that I put forth as a formula for life. They are:

Believe in God’s powerful alchemical love.
Believe you can be an instrument of that powerful love.
Use your free will to advance the power of love in all you do.
Balance your karma and try not to make more karma.
Focus on soul evolution as opposed to solely materialistic goals.
After the Christmas whirl is over, we reflect that perhaps we spent too much on presents, or didn’t give the “right” present, or were unable to help Santa as much as we would have wanted to.  And then we remember that the act of giving is the outreach of God’s love for us, that we gave our gifts to advance the cause of family love, and that those gifts are even in some small way perhaps atoning for past sins from other lifetimes.  So whether we spent too much or too little is not the point of it if we felt genuine love for the recipients of our gifts.  That love more than the object we gave is what was significant.

We were delighted in Tucson with the gift of snow a few days after Christmas and I prove my point with a montage of photographs from Tom attached below.  It didn’t last too long but reminded us once again that nature has a mind of its own and not to get too comfortable with the predictable.

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Snow in Tucson Photos by Tom Miller

 

New Research on Reincarnation from Children

New Book on Reincarnation

A new book of children’s accounts of past life memories has been published by Wayne Dyer and Dee Garnes. The title Memories of Children: Children’s Astounding Recollection of the Time Before They Came to Earth is available at Amazon.com for a little over $10.  Some children do have very clear memories that can be authenticated with research.   This collection of remembrances collected over many years by Dr. Dyer may strengthen your belief in reincarnation.  A two year old grandson of mine just told his mother the other day that he had seen Jesus and God in heaven before he was born.  She told him how wonderful that must have been.  Perhaps he is remembering; perhaps he has heard his older siblings talk.  Either way it is best to acknowledge and respect the child’s ideas, especially if you believe in reincarnation.

New App on the market to Distinguish Babies Cries

I mentioned the work done by the Australian baby whisperer identifying baby’s cries in my second book.  This information is available as the Dunston Baby Language DVD for 32.69.  But now I see that Taiwan researchers at the National University Hospital in Yunlin have designed an App called The Infant Cries Translator which will record your baby’s cries and in 15 seconds tell you what the cries mean.  It took them two years to develop the App by analysis of 200,000 recorded sounds of 100 newborn babies.  They claim a 92% accuracy rate for up to two weeks, but as the baby ages there is a decline in accuracy.  So, under 4 months, they claim an 84% accuracy and after that a 77% accuracy.  After 6 months they say there is no point in using the APP as the baby has adapted to its environment.  The App sells in the U.S. for $2.99 from Google Play and the Androids App store.

 

Another new book:  Sleeping Through the Night

It can be a game changer to have a young infant who is able to sleep through the night.  And now a new book by Drs. Lewis Jassey and Jonathan Jassey called the Newborn Sleep Book will teach you how to extend the feeding times during the day to 4-hour intervals to prepare a baby to sleep longer hours at night.  If you are in favor of demand feeding, their advice might not sit well with you.  It seems there is always the need to compromise either the baby’s needs or the parent’s needs when you are dealing with very young children.  In this case, the baby’s eating pattern is being programmed.

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Happy Holidays to all

Friends,

I will have the great pleasure of having a full family contingent arriving very soon for the holidays and thus, Mrs. Claus has much to do to prepare.  So, I’ll be back on line in January.  Thank you for your understanding. Tom is preparing a Christmas Card for you which we will send to our subscribers when it is completed.  In the meantime, enjoy this picture taken in Egypt a few years ago.

To me, it represents the statement, “A little child shall lead them.”  My hope is that there are many little children being born again this winter all over the world who, when they grow up, will inspire mankind to take one step higher in the spiral of evolution.

Celeste A. Miller

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Supporting Emotional Intelligence in Two-Year Olds

I have just completed a 14 week experience teaching two-year-olds in a Montessori-style classroom and interacting with their young parents.  “The terrible twos, how could you?” said my friends.  Today, I am very grateful for this concentrated glimpse into the world of these fourteen very individualistic two-year olds (and I didn’t find any of them “terrible”).

This age bracket is the beginning one for the development of emotional intelligence.  Many children are struggling with their emotions in a public setting (day care) for the first time and learning how to get through it all.   Already, I could see the previous social conditioning of their parents playing out in their personalities and orientations to other children.   I observed these children navigating for the first time with how to play in meaningful ways with others– copycatting was high on the list of observable play behaviors. If one child initiated a behavior, others would follow suit—usually these were with undesirable behaviors.  Some were transitioning from diapers to the toilet—those that had made it were in a different “older kid club”.  There was pride in this membership.  They were all learning how to be independent with opening lunch boxes, throwing away their left overs, cleaning their work areas, taking work off the shelves and returning it to the same location. Some days, all the children worked so diligently on their lessons with enthusiasm and joy.  Other days, they were more apt to throw themselves down on the rug, roll around and “space out”.   Sometimes they just got in trouble.  The head teacher called this “making a bad choice”.  This seemed to work.  I could see them categorizing these infractions in their consequent actions.  They certainly knew when another child made a “bad choice” and were happy to share that information. When they didn’t make good choices, they had to be carefully explained to as to why their choice wasn’t the best one.  Negotiations were often difficult.  There was occasional biting when “no” didn’t seem to cut through, there was hitting by those who didn’t go as far as biting, and there was a lot of touching, and not much hugging.  Crying was the easiest way to express their frustrations and disappointments.  I found all of these behaviors mark the beginning emotional life for the two-year old who is attending day care.

If your child is in day care and this age, you may be interested in exploring with your teacher the ways your child is developing emotional intelligence.

Parents are advised by experts to:

Become aware of the child’s emotion.
Recognize the emotion as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching.
Listen empathetically and validate the child’s feelings.
Help the child verbally label emotions.
Set limits while helping the child problem-solve.

I was able to sharpen my teaching, listening and caring skills through this “in the trenches experience” and I have a new found appreciation for the amazing minds of two-year olds– their capacity for order and cleanliness, their curiosity about the world, their attention to detail, and most especially the emerging independent spirit that comes from wearing underwear and being able to do things for oneself.  Pay attention.  There is a genius stirring in your two-year-olds mind– even if you can’t quite see it yet.

Dr. Celeste A. Miller

Photographed by Tom Miller

Kwan Yin – Ceramic – Taipei